From: owner-posdis-digest@lists.xmission.com (posdis-digest) To: posdis-digest@lists.xmission.com Subject: posdis-digest V1 #16 Reply-To: posdis-digest Sender: owner-posdis-digest@lists.xmission.com Errors-To: owner-posdis-digest@lists.xmission.com Precedence: bulk posdis-digest Wednesday, March 3 2004 Volume 01 : Number 016 ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Date: Wed, 3 Mar 2004 08:38:56 -0800 From: "Jody McVittie" Subject: Re: (posdis) Positive Discipline and family therapy This is a multi-part message in MIME format. - ------=_NextPart_000_0266_01C400FA.F7A97B40 Content-Type: text/plain; charset="iso-8859-1" Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable Jean, Those are newer activities that aren't in the manual yet. If you = send me your email address I'll send you copies. (I think Cheryl used = the two lists during her presentation in Calgary...so it will seem = familiar.) Jody (Everett, WA) jmcvittie@att.net ----- Original Message -----=20 From: Jean Dunbar=20 To: posdis@lists.xmission.com=20 Sent: Wednesday, March 03, 2004 7:56 AM Subject: RE: (posdis) Positive Discipline and family therapy Mike Could you explain the two lists and kindness and firmness/ chart? Thanks Jean Dunbar Calgary =20 -----Original Message----- From: owner-posdis@lists.xmission.com = [mailto:owner-posdis@lists.xmission.com]On Behalf Of Michael Brock Sent: Sunday, February 29, 2004 1:16 PM To: PositiveDisciplineGroup (E-mail) Subject: (posdis) Positive Discipline and family therapy =20 Hey, friends: =20 I had a family counseling session this morning, a blended family (Mom, = Dad, two teenagers, one 12-year-old). Actually dad and mom aren't = married yet, which is a large part of the issue: should we marry? should = we marry right now? after we get all our issues taken care of? And it = went superbly because: =20 1. I started with compliments and appreciations - a few pleasant = surprises there=20 =20 2. Then did the Two Lists - the issues started coming out with = this =20 3. Then did the kindness/firmness chart - more issues coming = out; developing clarity on the kind of home environment they want =20 4. Then asked each to suggest a "tool" they could use to help = create that kind and firm environment =20 5. Which all moved perfectly into a commitment to do family = meetings. =20 It's so cool discovering how easily Positive Discipline works in = family therapy! =20 -Mike - ------=_NextPart_000_0266_01C400FA.F7A97B40 Content-Type: text/html; charset="iso-8859-1" Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable
Jean, Those are newer activities that = aren't in the=20 manual yet. If you send me your email address I'll send you = copies.  (I=20 think Cheryl used the two lists during her presentation in Calgary...so = it will=20 seem familiar.) Jody (Everett, WA)
jmcvittie@att.net
 
----- Original Message -----
From:=20 Jean Dunbar
To: posdis@lists.xmission.com =
Sent: Wednesday, March 03, 2004 = 7:56=20 AM
Subject: RE: (posdis) Positive = Discipline=20 and family therapy

Mike

Could=20 you explain the two lists and kindness and firmness/=20 chart?

Thanks

Jean=20 Dunbar Calgary

 

-----Original=20 Message-----
From: = owner-posdis@lists.xmissi= on.com=20 [mailto:owner-posdis@lists.xmission.com]On=20 Behalf Of Michael Brock
Sent: Sunday, February 29, 2004 = 1:16=20 PM
To:=20 PositiveDisciplineGroup (E-mail)
Subject: (posdis) Positive = Discipline and=20 family therapy

 

Hey,=20 friends:

 

I had=20 a family counseling session this morning, a blended family (Mom, Dad, = two=20 teenagers, one 12-year-old). =20 Actually dad and mom aren=92t married yet, which is a large = part of the=20 issue: should we marry? should we marry right now? after we get all = our issues=20 taken care of?  And it = went=20 superbly because:

 

1.      =20 I=20 started with compliments and appreciations =96 a few pleasant = surprises there=20

 

2.      =20 Then=20 did the Two Lists =96 the issues started coming out with=20 this

 

3.      =20 Then=20 did the kindness/firmness chart =96 more issues coming out; developing = clarity=20 on the kind of home environment they = want

 

4.      =20 Then=20 asked each to suggest a =93tool=94 they could use to help create that = kind and=20 firm environment

 

5.      =20 Which=20 all moved perfectly into a commitment to do family=20 meetings.

 

It=92s=20 so cool discovering how easily Positive Discipline works in family=20 therapy!

 

-Mike

- ------=_NextPart_000_0266_01C400FA.F7A97B40-- - - To unsubscribe to posdis, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe posdis" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Wed, 3 Mar 2004 16:07:22 -0600 From: "Michael Brock" Subject: RE: (posdis) Positive Discipline and family therapy This is a multi-part message in MIME format. - ------=_NextPart_000_0040_01C40139.9D5762D0 Content-Type: text/plain; charset="iso-8859-1" Content-Transfer-Encoding: 8bit Thanks, Dina. It is so much fun, isn’t it! - -Mike - -----Original Message----- From: owner-posdis@lists.xmission.com [mailto:owner-posdis@lists.xmission.com]On Behalf Of Dina Emser Sent: Monday, March 01, 2004 5:55 PM To: posdis@lists.xmission.com Subject: Re: (posdis) Positive Discipline and family therapy Dear Mike, I’m always so happy when you share – it reminds me that I could be a little more generous about sending ideas and successes to the list! I recently did a short workshop for a group called Women In Management. We focused on Top Card and Empowering vs. Enabling Statements and the response was so positive! I’m with you-- PD works, everywhere! My best to you, Dina in Illinois On 2/29/04 2:15 PM, "Michael Brock" wrote: Hey, friends: I had a family counseling session this morning, a blended family (Mom, Dad, two teenagers, one 12-year-old). Actually dad and mom aren’t married yet, which is a large part of the issue: should we marry? should we marry right now? after we get all our issues taken care of? And it went superbly because: 1. I started with compliments and appreciations – a few pleasant surprises there 1. Then did the Two Lists – the issues started coming out with this 1. Then did the kindness/firmness chart – more issues coming out; developing clarity on the kind of home environment they want 1. Then asked each to suggest a “tool” they could use to help create that kind and firm environment 1. Which all moved perfectly into a commitment to do family meetings. It’s so cool discovering how easily Positive Discipline works in family therapy! - -Mike - ------=_NextPart_000_0040_01C40139.9D5762D0 Content-Type: text/html; charset="iso-8859-1" Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable Re: (posdis) Positive Discipline and family therapy

Th= anks, Dina.  It is so much fun, = isn’t it!

 

-M= ike

 

-----Original Message-----
From: owner-posdis@lists.xmission.com = [mailto:owner-posdis@lists.xmission.com]On Behalf Of Dina Emser
Sent: Monday, March 01, = 2004 5:55 PM
To: = posdis@lists.xmission.com
Subject: Re: (posdis) = Positive Discipline and family therapy

 

Dear Mike,
    I’m always so happy when you share – = it reminds me that I could be a little more generous about sending ideas and successes to = the list!  I recently did a short workshop for a group called Women In Management.  We focused on Top Card and Empowering vs. Enabling = Statements and the response was so positive!  I’m with you-- PD works, = everywhere!
    My best to you,
    Dina in Illinois


On 2/29/04 2:15 PM, "Michael Brock" <mlbrock@gte.net> = wrote:<= /p>

Hey, = friends:
 
I had a family counseling session this morning, a blended family (Mom, = Dad, two teenagers, one 12-year-old).  Actually dad and mom aren’t = married yet, which is a large part of the issue: should we marry? should we marry = right now? after we get all our issues taken care of?  And it went superbly = because:
 

1.      I started with compliments and appreciations – a few pleasant surprises there = <= /p>

 <= /p>

1.      Then did the = Two Lists – the issues started coming out with this = <= /p>

 <= /p>

1.      Then did the kindness/firmness chart – more issues coming out; developing = clarity on the kind of home environment they want = <= /p>

 <= /p>

1.      Then asked each = to suggest a “tool” they could use to help create that kind and = firm environment

 <= /p>

1.      Which all moved perfectly into a commitment to do family meetings.


It’s so cool discovering how easily Positive Discipline works in = family therapy!
 
- -Mike

 <= /p>

- ------=_NextPart_000_0040_01C40139.9D5762D0-- - - To unsubscribe to posdis, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe posdis" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Wed, 3 Mar 2004 16:08:34 -0600 From: "Michael Brock" Subject: RE: (posdis) Positive Discipline and family therapy Yup, that's for sure, Mary. Thanks, and I look forward to seeing you in July. - -Mike - -----Original Message----- From: owner-posdis@lists.xmission.com [mailto:owner-posdis@lists.xmission.com]On Behalf Of Mary Jamin Maguire Sent: Monday, March 01, 2004 3:28 PM To: posdis@lists.xmission.com Subject: Re: (posdis) Positive Discipline and family therapy Yes, Mike - that's what I love about Adlerian Psychology - the cross-applications of therapy/counsleing/parenting, etc. I began with the therapy and moved to the parenting and have found the same types of "aha's." By the way - in a related way, it's all been your "calling" - don't ya think? One thing builds upon the other ... Thanks for sharing - Mary J. Maguire > Melanie- > > Yes, it's been amazing to me how many times I've just reached into my PD > toolbox and pulled something out in therapy. Ditto with the more > specifically Adlerian stuff like early childhood memories. Positive > Discipline is what led me to the field of counseling, and counseling is > deepening my understanding of Positive Discipline. Ya' know, after 55 years > I think I've finally found my calling! > > Best wishes, > > Mike > > -----Original Message----- > From: owner-posdis@lists.xmission.com > [mailto:owner-posdis@lists.xmission.com]On Behalf Of copeland00@att.net > Sent: Monday, March 01, 2004 1:06 PM > To: posdis@lists.xmission.com > Subject: Re: (posdis) Positive Discipline and family therapy > > > --NextPart_Webmail_9m3u9jl4l_26131_1078167965 > Content-Type: text/plain > Content-Transfer-Encoding: 8bit > > Thanks Mike... > > It's nice to see how Positive Discipline works in a counseling > situation!...the simplicity of it!! So far, I've only used it in classes, > but someday hope to use it as a counselor! > > Melanie Miller > > > > --NextPart_Webmail_9m3u9jl4l_26131_1078167965 > Content-Type: Multipart/alternative; > boundary="NextPart_Webmail_9m3u9jl4l_26131_1078167965" > > --NextPart_Webmail_9m3u9jl4l_26131_1078167965 > Content-Type: text/plain; > charset="iso-8859-1" > Content-Transfer-Encoding: 8bit > > Hey, friends: > > I had a family counseling session this morning, a blended family (Mom, Dad, > two teenagers, one 12-year-old). Actually dad and mom aren't married yet, > which is a large part of the issue: should we marry? should we marry right > now? after we get all our issues taken care of? And it went superbly > because: > > 1. I started with compliments and appreciations - a few pleasant > surprises > there > > 2. Then did the Two Lists - the issues started coming out with this > > 3. Then did the kindness/firmness chart - more issues coming out; > developing > clarity on the kind of home environment they want > > 4. Then asked each to suggest a "tool" they could use to help create > that > kind and firm environment > > 5. Which all moved perfectly into a commitment to do family meetings. > > It's so cool discovering how easily Positive Discipline works in family > therapy! > > -Mike > > --NextPart_Webmail_9m3u9jl4l_26131_1078167965 > Content-Type: text/html; > charset="iso-8859-1" > Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable > > xmlns:w=3D"urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:word" = > xmlns=3D"http://www.w3.org/TR/REC-html40"> > > > charset=3Diso-8859-1"> > > > > > > > > > > > > >
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